In His Image

It's worth noting that many of us are resistant to growth when it makes us uncomfortable and yet we hate the thought of being left behind. Catch phrases about proceeding and progress are so commonplace nowadays and yet, in many areas of our lives we can't bear to part with the status quo.  Seeing others change and grow is intimidating because in some way, it reminds us not so much of our ineptitude but our complacency. This phenomenon is apparent in friendships; when you outg row people, you may find them constantly trying to remind you of who you used to be. Perhaps back then you weren't as impressive, or successful, or popular or secure. So these reminders are meant to keep you indebted to your past and to they, who loved you back then. The new you, the better you is so very disconcerting to them and that seeps through the cracks of your conversations.  For tangible and more superficial elements such as a career upgrade, a physical "glow-up" ...

Platonic relationships nowadays are very few and far between. It's rare to come across genuine, simple brotherly-sisterly affection among men and women that aren't actually related. It's either all (a relationship) or nothing. Many of us will only go out of our way to invest our time, resources and affection into friendships of the opposite sex if and when there is romantic interest. That seems worthwhile and that seems appropriate. Doing just as much for anything less than a potential future partner seems to be generally regarded as foolish or a waste of time because you'd be categorised as being in "the friend zone" which is a dead-end that must be resisted at all costs or desperately escaped.  Everyone professes to have a mortal fear of heartbreak but many of us will casually dive in heart-first into 'flirtationships' and intimacy and then be horrified when we discover that the person is, in some way or another, not in fact who we though...